What should we do or not do for our adult children?
Ø Our kids need our prayers, not our preaching: Perhaps more than at any other stage of their lives, adult children needs our prayers on their behalf. Most powerful influence in the world is prayer
Ø Our kids need our concern, not our control: “when are you and the family reading in the bile these days?
Ø Our kids need our understanding, not our undermining: Out of every adversity comes a grater reward. We cannot rescue our children from all difficulties, but we can understanding and undergird them when circumstances are rocky.
Ø Our kids need our example, not our exhortation: As we grow older, our kids are watching us
Ø Our kids need to see enthusiasm for life, not endurance till death: It’s so exciting to see an older couple who have excitement about life. John Wesley, at eighty-five, said he was not weary in travelling or preaching. He journeyed over 250,000 miles on horseback, preached over 40,000 sermons, wrote 400 books, learned and spoke 10 languages. He said he stayed young by exercise and change of air, never losing a night’s sleep on land or at sea, arising at 4:00 every morning and preaching at 5 every morning.
o At age eighty, Corrie ten Boom said she was going to write five books and do five films before she died. She did it!
Ø Our kids need our committed love, not our conditional love
Ø Our kids need some protected time, not some promised time: they need some particular time that is committed to spend with each other
Ø Our kids need our cooperation, not our complaints
